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[truedetective]

I have, haven't I? I told the others. I told her the moment I realized I needed to. But I can't just trust everyone I meet, everyone I speak to. Don't I need to learn someone and feel that I can trust them before I tell them my most guarded secrets?

[burningblossoms]

You told the group bits of it because you had to, but you came at me with more than a little hostility before you explained anything and left me wondering if you hated me for a month. 

Naoto, I'm sorry that you're in this situation, but there isn't a quick fix for this. If you like her company and want her to trust you then you have to show the same trust.  Trust obviously goes both ways, and if she's showed her vulnerable side to you then it's probably worth doing the same to her. 

I'm not saying shout it to the rooftops that you're a girl if it's that important that you appear to be a boy, but open up about it with the people you care about before it becomes absolutely necessary.  If you wait till then, it is going to seem like a betrayal of trust because they never really knew you at all, and like you're only trying to save yourself potential embarrassment.  That's showing them your true self, and if you want to make and keep close friends, you have to do that.

The only possible fix is time, and you have to ask her to forgive you.  And hope that she does.

[truedetective]

I was angry with you because, from my perspective, you were telling people something I try to keep private. Obviously, that was a misunderstanding and I corrected my view of the matter. I suppose the threshold at which I'm comfortable telling someone this reality is significantly further along than the threshold at which they feel betrayed at not having learned it. I don't know what to do about that. I just don't see why it matters so much. Aren't I the same person regardless of my gender? I didn't ask her to develop feelings for me... I was trying to help her.

[burningblossoms]

Well, it does matter. When affairs of the heart come into play.

You don't have to return her feelings, but you can't expect there to be a quick fix for that either.

Time will tell, that's all I can say. But this is the root of the trouble.

I do hope you can resolve it. I really do.

[truedetective]

I don't understand those.
I never have.
Emotions are fickle and logical and irrational.
I hate this, Yukiko. It's frustrating.

[There's another long span of time.]

Thank you for the advice.